The incarnation of creation

Autumn Leaves falling

In this Autumn season there is a ‘falling’, as we watch the leaves make their descent, swirling and twirling in the breezes. In this time we also celebrate the gathering of the harvest, giving thanks to God for the provision of the earth in all its goodness and abundance.

Incarnation  is a lovely word which describes a kind of ‘falling’ – the falling or descent of God to earth… the revelation of God in our material world. We often use the word in relation to Jesus as one who makes God known to us. But there is an incarnation which preceded the Bethlehem birth, and that is the very act of creation when God pours out himself into every material thing. ‘It is good!’ God acclaims in Genesis 1 and St. Paul in Romans 1 writes ‘ ever since the creation of the world God’s eternal power and divine nature, invisible though they are, have been understood and seen through the things he has made’. Sometimes I think we don’t really catch what St. Paul is saying here!

This prior incarnation is still with us,  and we have opportunity to see each new day God with us – right in front of our eyes. In every little thing, and big thing, God is here. We just need to see… and that’s the problem for many of us. We see, but we don’t see. Jesus would make a similar observation in the gospels – and it’s true for us today. Yes we see creation – the trees, the vegetation, the ponies, the cattle, the fish, and clouds in the skies… but perhaps we don’t see. They just pass us by!

The Christian faith is an incarnational faith. It is founded on God making himself visible, touchable, and it is accessed first and foremost by our experience of it. By this I mean how it makes me feel – when I pat my pet dog Nahla, when I taste the beetroot in the salad, when I feel the sun rays on my back or the raindrops on my face – these experiences are the doorways, the windows into absorbing the very presence of God into me.

Clearly we are lost for words when we try and sum up this in any description. This is beyond our language – although we do give it a real good go! But as we absorb this presence something very real happens in us. The Russian author Leo Tolstoy describes it as ‘something that had been slumbering, something that was best within, suddenly awakes joyful and youthful’. Here Tolstoy is describing the experience of one of his protagonists, Andrew Bolkonsky, in War & Peace experiencing the incarnation. This waking up inside us happens every time we consciously offer gratitude for the ordinary material bits of life. And that’s what we do as a gathered community at Harvest.

And the ‘falling’ of the leaves this autumn reminds us that the incarnation of creation never stands still – it is still unfolding even when it looks as though it’s coming to an end!


God’s ‘tutorial’

‘Just show me!’ Its often heard when something new is being learned. Many today learn by tutorial – ‘Youtube’ is filled with visual, step by step instructions on how to complete a task – from learning a guitar finger technique, to bowling a googly in cricket, to fitting a washing machine, to pressing flowers – the visual tutorial could not be more popular!


Becoming a Christian is no different – the visual tutorial beats them all! ‘Youtube’ is a little bit more limited however in learning the practice in becoming a Christian, there aren’t too many visual, step by step, videos which do the job… the capability to live life with a gentleness and resilience, not resisting but always giving thanks for every little bit, yielding that nerve centre where we feel consent or the withholding of it, knowing forgiveness and giving it without restraint, seeing the ordinary bits of each day from somebody else’s shoes… becoming a Christian is not easily accessed simply through an internet connection no matter how fibre optic it is!


We have the four gospels in our New Testament – Matthew, Mark, Luke and John. In these we have simple, vivid descriptions of Jesus – his actions and words. In church on a Sunday we all stand as these words are read : as a deliberate mark of respect as these words become the presence of Jesus right in front of us. So we stand. We are ready to learn, we want to be shaped in the way we think, say and do into the very likeness of Jesus. We believe Jesus offers us the very life of God made flesh – ‘he was in the beginning… and through him all things have come into being’ (John 1).


Also we are blessed with this amazing created world and universe. God’s presence has been poured out into every material thing : ‘in him all things hold together’ (Colossians 1). So we only have to look; to look at the skies, at the trees, every plant and flower and creature that walks, squirms and swims! To look again with that wonderful sense ‘I don’t know everything’. As we really look – something simple yet so deliberate- we find wisdom and understanding imparted to us. A wisdom and understanding which comes from heaven – it just happens. Our hearts become bigger, more open, tolerant, generous and grateful. We walk the journey of ‘becoming a Christian’.


And also we are blessed with human examples, people who live with an enjoyment, grace and a love for life. We learn to really appreciate them, and then maybe imitate and copy their example. These people are incredibly important. They might be people we bump into on a daily basis, or every so often, they might be people who have been part of our lives and who for one reason or another are not now as immediate as they once were. They might even be people we have never met… people we have read about in books or whose story has been passed down to us through stories and narratives. ‘Ah! thats how it looks!’ we say to ourselves.


In a similar way we do this with our saints. We have a Patronal Festival (8th September) when we hear again the example of Mary, the mother of Jesus. In the Festival we acclaim her example, we make our appreciation vocal in the praying of prayers and the singing of songs – and we are grateful for these example of what ‘becoming a Christian’ looks like.


Ordinary life is crammed full of tutorials – God gives them ‘new every morning’ this is what ‘becoming a Christian’ looks like. And these are tutorials which never tire or get out of date … accessed over and over again, readily available and with no charge!

The Internal Flow of Life

The sound of running water, from a mountain stream to a garden water feature, brings a wonderful sense of energy and life to the hottest of days. Perhaps, that’s why walking along a river in full flow is one of life’s greatest pleasures. I know our springer spaniel, Nahla, loves the sensation of moving water and the delight in swimming with the current – yes, she jumps into the most stagnant of waters, but when it’s flowing…. well you just can’t get her out!


Similarly, when encountering people who live ‘with an internal flow of life’ – we are incredibly blessed. These people have the capacity to see life as it really is and yet not be diminished by it in any sense at all. They live with a paradoxical exuberant patience, a dynamic kindness and an effervescent ability to listen and be part of any moment. God has given us life, he is the source of the vitality of life itself, and his energy is given to every plant, creature and human alike. It is only us humans who have the dismal inclination, time after time, to refuse the energy, and build walls of separation. This results in the inevitable weariness, discontent and dissatisfaction of much of contemporary life. We see it etched on people’s faces, we even feel it in our hearts and we catch it in the systemic competitiveness of our driven success culture. We find it so painstakingly difficult, in the words of Martin Luther King ‘to just get along with each other’. To refer to Nahla once more, she has no desire whatever to compare herself with any other living thing, she is happy as can be in just being Nahla. Within her spaniel soul, there is an unbridled ‘internal flow of life’. Meeting Nahla on a forest path, or emerging from the long grasses, or running with abandon across the beautiful landscapes of Longdown or Deerleap  – all evidence this perpetual ‘yes’ to life.


Yet for us humans we make everything so complicated. We over think our lives, we live in our heads and end up believing our thoughts really are us. This is really sad – especially as we find it so easy to think – over and over again – on the problems we all face, but give so little attention to the goodness of life in all its abundance. We mentally chew over encounters which do not go well, when things happen not to our liking, our conversation is energised when life goes wrong.  Nahla has no such problem! When her paw is bruised or there is a wound which makes running really difficult – she just adapts and accepts it. This is just how it is, it will pass, and so the tail just keeps wagging. Not for her is the thinking what this might mean for her future life, not for her is the raking over the past as to when and where this wound was inflicted and who was to blame. None of this! She just gets on with everything.


People who live with ‘an internal flow of life’ within them are those who go with what is in front of them. There is no question of blaming, or analysing and agonising over  future implications. These are the things which cause life to get blocked – culminating in a stench of stagnation which bears little resemblance to the vitality of what could have been. God gives us life, he wants us to be blessed by it and to in turn bless others. He wants us to give praise in all circumstances… to love life even when it is plain humdrum. This is the flow we are each called to live. As we take personal and then communal responsibility for this – the earth and all of life is cherished… and this is good – very good!

Our Dreams and the Holy Spirit

Dove flying against blue sky

Dear Friends,

We all have dreams – either for ourselves or loved ones. Dreams that if everything works out, this is how it might look. Maybe the dreams include a holiday or two, families settled and happy, Saints making the top four (!!?), efficient decision making in Parliament… the list goes. Dreams  provide us with a goal to aim for, and as it becomes more than a pipe dream i we then need to know what it will take for the dream to make reality.


We hear many times over in our bible texts God’s dreams, including famously ‘the wolf shall live with the lamb’ from Isaiah 11. We hear the Kingdom of God being established among mortals, that the time for weeping will be no more –  but what will it take for this to be more thana pipe dream and to be reality? If this question is side-stepped Christians live in a perpetual haze of vague longings which are never really believed in – more a ‘hoping for the best’.


During the month of June we celebrate the great Pentecost feast (9th June). It is a feast day when we acclaim the gift of God’s Holy Spirit poured out on all flesh. We acclaim a spirit which transforms existence – it is no coincidence it is likened to a mighty wind and tongues of fire. This period of the year the church is invited to give attention to this gift, to look for it, to feel it, and to believe in it.


The sadness, perhaps even the tragedy, is that for many of us we give the Holy Spirit no attention, no time and no appreciation – which means we end up not believing in it. And this has the knock-on effect of losing faith that any of our dreams, or God’s dreams for that matter, can ever be realised. This is a real sadness as it means people and institutions become weary and tired, ever circling in a downward momentum.

In Ezekiel 47 the Spirit of God is likened to a river. The flow of this river is deep and wide and it brings life and vibrancy to all in its path. It is a wonderfully inspiring chapter of scripture. And it prompts us, as we read it, to be those who stand in the flow of such a river today. In other words to be those who sense and experience the flow of goodness and grace that is being poured out on all creation.  In that same chapter of scripture it describes the impact of not standing in the river’s flow – there is a stagnancy where everything just gets blocked, cluttered  and ‘left for salt’.


When we stand in the flow of this Spirit, meaning is given, energy is supplied and a lightness of our own spirit is experienced. This standing in the flow begins with individuals – making it their priority each day to sense this gift of life. And as individuals make it integral to their lived life, so the institutional life of our nation slowly changes.


For Christians praying is our integral action to make this real in our lives – for praying is really connecting with this flow which is in each one of us already. Praying regularly – even for only a few moments each day, unlocks the flow. This praying will take many different forms for each of us – it might be a careful recitation of the ‘Our Father…’ , it might be the fully attentive appreciation of the skies above our heads, it might be the asking for blessing on loved ones… but in whatever form we open possibilities for the dreams of heaven (as articulated in Isaiah 11) to move from fantasy to our own experience.


It is the Holy Spirit which makes the dreams come real. So yes, we give the Spirit attention, we look for it, we feel it… and we then really believe in it!

Take time

Dear Friends,

Many times I hear people remark, ‘I just can’t take it in’. In a whole variety of contexts this remark is made – in times of unbridled joy and in times of heartbreaking anguish. When something happens which changes everything – we need time to work out just what is going to change and how this change impacts my ordinary day to day life.

These occasions don’t happen every day – sometimes ‘out of the blue’ they arrive and irrevocably alter the landscape of our lives. It might be a new addition to the family, an unforeseen opportunity at work, a loss of a loved one, or the news of an illness… whatever it is… time is required to gauge the truth and implications.

So, it is not surprising the Easter season lasts 40 days, 50 days if you run it through to Pentecost. Yet in our culture Easter is a week-end of chocolate egg overdrive! I love the chocolate eggs, but the implications of Easter go far beyond the feelings of guilt (and pleasure) in the consumption of all the Easter goodies on offer! Easter is the ultimate event which changes the landscape  – this is why we are given a generous portion of time to begin to make sense of it, see the impact in our ordinary day to day lives, and to feel the surge of energy this connection with the resurrection life makes in us.

The appearances of the resurrected Jesus are intimate, fleeting and powerful beyond words. He expressly tells Mary on the first Easter morning not to cling on to him. In this encounter it was the recognition which was integral to the experience. The gardener (for that is who Mary thought he was) recognised Mary by saying her name. This recognition of Mary I imagine went straight to her heart – here was somebody who knew her and loved her. She then just knew – this was not the gardener but Jesus! No wonder she ran to tell the disciples the news.

The calling of a name can be a beautiful yet simple expression of recognition. ‘I know you…’ and the name is said. When we baptize or christen in church, we name the person – the name is a statement of who they are, it carries a meaning beyond the phonetics.

The Christian community is privileged to believe Jesus walks with us – the dead man who was buried walks with us (as in the resurrection  story of the walk to Emmaus). He walks with us and eats with us. Not only that, but he knows us, he recognises us – who we really are. When Christians pray it is this we look to hear and sense. As we bow our heads to pray the ‘Our Father…’ we consciously direct our attention to this divine recognition.

And then we are invited to recognise Jesus – in the bread and the wine, in the ordinary day to day stuff of life, to recognise and to name him ‘My Lord and my God’ – the recognition of Thomas. When we hear the rustle of the leaves in the trees, when the sea waves break on the seashore, when a friend or a stranger smiles and connects with us – ‘it is the Lord’, we echo Mary. By not clinging to the recognition we receive it as a gift – and we walk on with our heads and hearts alert to the next recognition. 40 days to walk this journey changes everything, the landscape, no matter how disfigured, is re-arranged, re-configured in ways we will never have anticipated.

Have a blessed and happy Easter – really and truly!

Be confident in ‘not knowing’

Dear Friends,

It can sometimes seem remarkably odd that salvation is accessed through a story of betrayal, intimidation, crucifixion, burial and resurrection – how can this be?


Everything in this story appears to be back to front. The Jesus who was ‘in the beginning’ – ridiculed and publicly shamed, death labelled as ‘good’ in the Good Friday name, and then there is the  rising from the dead – so enigmatic at times, and yet plainly physical and undeniable at other times.

All of this can leave us scratching our heads – how can this be celebrated as ‘salvation’… or ‘the way’ to life in all its fullness?


There is a very beautiful passage of scripture (John 14), often read at funerals, where Jesus tells his friends not to worry, because ‘in his Father’s house there are many dwelling places’ or ‘mansions’.  Jesus then says he will go to prepare a place for us, and we ‘know the way to the place where he is going’. This is all really encouraging, and lifts the spirit! But Thomas cuts in – ‘Lord, we do not know where you are going, so how can we know the way?’ Thomas, I imagine, is speaking for the other friends… ‘Jesus, we just don’t know…’


Some people depict the disciples, the friends of Jesus, as being a bit slow on the uptake… but I think their ‘not knowing’ and Thomas’s confidence in articulating this, is an important signpost for us in finding ‘the way’, in accessing ‘salvation in Jesus’, in embracing ‘the fullness of life’ Jesus promises us.


In our modern culture there is an urgency ‘to know’. Don’t be caught out, don’t be left looking stupid when you didn’t have the information to hand… make sure you give the appearance of knowing even when you don’t. Our professional services rely heavily on the confidence provided by a knowledgeable expertise. There’s no denying that certain bits of knowledge, and ‘knowing it’ can be really important and necessary. But when it comes to enjoying life and catching the fabulous  wonder of human existence, then maybe ‘knowing it all’ may not be helpful at all!


Thomas is a great example to us. He was not afraid in the John 14 conversation to say he didn’t know. Again after the resurrection, he wanted to touch the wounds of Jesus before he could say he knew. Thomas was not afraid of admitting he didn’t know. Perhaps that’s why, when he met the risen Jesus, but didn’t touch the wounds, he was able to exclaim so fully ‘My Lord and my God’.


Just imagine if we were to start each day with the acclamation ‘I don’t know…’ – waking up, being fully committed to the day… to the people we are to meet, the events which will come our way… and to still say ‘I don’t know…’ You see the people who have the confidence to say they don’t know, are the same people who find new things, new truths, and new horizons on a daily basis. But those who know everything, end up knowing nothing – because with them there is never any adventure, any exploration, any openness to something new.


The friends who buried the body of Jesus didn’t have everything sorted in their heads. In their minds and hearts, I imagine, there were some big, aching gaps. Mary in the garden, on that first Easter morning, plainly didn’t know. So today, don’t be a tedious know-it-all, let’s re-find the capacity ‘not to know’ while at the same time being entirely committed to life … paradoxically giving ourselves every chance to know! Great is the mystery of faith : Christ has died, Christ is risen, Christ will come again!

“Carrying our cross”

carry your cross

Dear Friends,

Believing is not as easy as it first sounds. We believe when we know something to be true, and this knowledge then impacts the way we do things.

Believing happens when we do stuff. When I risk floating on the water, I begin to know what it means to trust. And so I believe in the possibility of not sinking when in the water. Because I believe, I can enter the ocean and launch myself into the waters.

Jesus invites us to ‘believe the good news of the gospel’. Yet we can only believe when we know it is true, and we only know it is true when we have risked a little in ‘doing’ it. So how can we ‘do’ the good news of Jesus… because if we don’t ‘do’, our belief will only be academic, in our heads, and this is no good to anyone!

‘Doing’ the good news of Jesus is what Jesus means by ‘carrying our cross’. Carrying a cross is a very physical, tangible action. It is a million miles from simply reading a book and assenting to some ‘idea’ or ‘concept’. Carrying requires an action… an action which we will experience. When Jesus states it is the cross we must carry, He is directing our attention to the giving of himself on the Calvary cross. An action of self-giving love – not a nice ‘idea’ but a real, definitive action. At Calvary Jesus is not in control, He has forfeited any sense of directing operations – He has placed himself in the hands of the Roman governor Pilate, and the religious hierarchies. This is a concrete action by Jesus.

So, Jesus calls us, each one of us, to follow his example and ‘carry our cross’ – don’t be afraid of placing yourself in others control… and do it in love. This is a self giving love. As we act in this way we ‘do’ the good news of Jesus. As we ‘do’ the good news we experience the blessing this brings – it makes us feel good. Too many times we interpret this feeling good as something we should not admit to – so we try to put it to one side with the resulting impact that we don’t risk this self giving love… we become tired and weary… and we only end up doing it in our heads – which is no good to anyone!

Yet as we ‘do’ the actions of self-giving – making a cup of tea for a loved one, making a phone call or sending a text to check a friend is ok, smiling at a stranger, letting a fellow car driver join the queue of traffic ahead of us – these actions of self –giving – not looking for any reward or pat on the back are the gateway into believing. The impact of these actions provide us with ‘knowledge’ – self-giving brings a blessing of spirit – and this knowledge leads directly into believing in the ‘way’ Jesus has instructed us in.

And as we believe in this way, our hearts are changed, are made more expansive and we begin to uncover a new ‘me’ – a ‘me’ which lays to one side the compulsive weariness of our inability to believe what is really important, a ‘me’ which stands blessed in a love which knows no end. A ‘me’ which could even be described as a ‘new creation’.

So, asking ourselves each day – when have I ‘done’ some self-giving actions… when have I chosen to ‘deny myself’ and ‘bless the other…’ becomes a really important thing to do. In these simple and profound actions ‘believing’ becomes something ingrained into our psyche.

God gives of Himself to us each day –over and over again. In the heart of the Trinity (Father, Son and Holy Spirit) there is an amazing, voracious belief in the power of love. This is not an idea or nice sounding concept – it is something God ‘does’ in every moment.

‘Believers’ are not only people who sit in pews or sing hymns, but  those who ‘carry the cross’ with a joy and effervescence because they know this is the only way… the way to ‘believe in the good news of Jesus Christ’.

The Gift of Sight

gift of sight

The gift of sight is an amazing capability – with our eyes we make out colour, shape, and patterns. We see outlines, contours and distance. We see frowning foreheads, smiling faces, and every expression under the sun! Seeing with our eyes is taken for granted by nearly all of us – except perhaps when the gift becomes impaired by the onset of a optic condition or a debilitating head ache.

Our eyes, yes, are our primary sense in seeing, but it is true we use our hearing, our smelling and our touch to gain a picture – and those who see really well – who see three dimensionally – are those who habitually, by instinct, use the whole range of senses.

Jesus invites us all in the gospels to see with nuance, without bias and with an openness – to see as though we are not in control. You see, when we look at life as though we are in control, we manipulate, arrange and live according to our own need – yet when we look while simultaneously not being in control, we see actually what is in front of us. Sadly, we tend to do everything whilst being in control. We rationalise, understand, sort it all out in our heads – and then we live. Unfortunately this is the surest way to limit life, to miss its wonder, and to de-generate into a joylessness so endemic in our so-called civilised societies.

To see life as though we are not in control, is to simply see what is in front of us without pre-judging, analysing or measuring. It is to see and not react – often we engage with life in this reactive state… ‘how can I re-arrange everything to my own interests…?’ Reactive living is a desparate curse of our modern structures. The simplest way to untangle our lives from this reactive misery is to learn and practice seeing without judgment. Just looking…stand and stare at what is before us – all the contradictions, paradoxes, colour and contours. For too many of us, me included, we see what we want to see, rather than the complicated, mysterious and fragile truth of what is.

As we begin to see without bias, we open ourselves to the truth of being loved. Love cannot be understood, rationalised boxed up. It is something dynamic – like the wind which blows in this direction and that – and it is all that matters. This seeing without judgment is the action of faith – it is this faith which opens our hearts and minds to a life bigger than our own parameters. It is this action of faith which saves us – perhaps this is the reason Jesus so often says to the people he encounters ‘your faith has saved you…’.

As we begin to ‘see’ in the Jesus way, the Beatitudes (described in Matthew chapter 5) become the attitudes of our lives. These beatitudes are  all about gladly forfeiting control… yet the impact and blessing is bigger than we could ever comprehend – ‘for yours will be the Kingdom’… ‘you will be comforted’… ‘ you will be called children of God’… ‘you will inherit the earth’… ‘you will be filled’… ‘you will see God’… ‘you will be shown mercy’… this is the Kingdom of heaven Jesus tells us is ‘at hand’ (in other words is right in front of us whatever the circumstances) – and it all starts in the manner of our seeing – moving away from the need to know, join up all the dots, and manipulate to our own way… and moving towards a way of seeing all living beings without judgment, bias or control.

Using all our senses in this way – well this needs to be practiced. And the practiced can start today… blessings as we learn to live in the very kingdom of heaven!

Children friends

Dear Friends,

Would you like to be a child again? Would you like to return to a time when you are young, with the world before you?

As we all know, the world is a different place from what it was ten, twenty, fifty years ago. Children today face significant challenges – perhaps the most debilitating of these challenges are those that arise from issues around obesity, social media and the culture of testing in our education environment. All of these can engender anxiety levels which if we are not careful may prove to be incessant and utterly counter to living life well. Anxiety and fear rob all the generations of so much – so it is imperative we discover life where confidence and grace are nurtured.

Jesus invites ‘let all the children come to me’. Come to be blessed, to be made whole, to be the person you were meant to be. Coming to Jesus means being loved completely, being given confidence to be who we are, being guided to enjoy life in every circumstance. When society today invites the children – it seems it is almost the exact reverse of these Jesus invitations – rather it is to over-eat and indulge, to be subsumed by the approval of others, and to be subjected to anxiety levels driven by relentless testing programmes.

The message of Jesus is pertinent to each of these elements. Jesus is described over and again eating in the company of others. We are to teach our children the value of the shared meal, gathering across the generations, where so much more than food is given and received. Jesus teaches us very directly to look to our Father in heaven for direction, forgiveness and value… ‘follow me and be my disciple’. And Jesus teaches us ‘not to worry…let tomorrow take care of itself’.

To be part of a community which accepts us simply as we are – without any prejudice or judgment, but simply in love and mercy – is integral to living life well. The context of family has the golden opportunity to provide this  – and ‘family’ today can take many forms. No family will be perfect, no family will get everything right…but a family committed to the flourishing of each member is a unit where growth and confidence are guaranteed. The extended relationships of family are incredibly important as the different generations provide wisdom, experience and an energy for what is new – all of which helps both young and old to find and re-find perspective. Relationships, family relationships, are never a one way passage – there is always to and fro, backwards and forwards from one member to another.

The ministry of church is centred very much on this family grouping – in the many baptisms we host, in the comfort and hope provided in times of grief and in the joyous yet reverent celebration of marriage…to have and to hold. In all of these contexts the gathering together of family – to support, be-friend and just simply to be there – are central to the celebration or memorial. Children who grow up within a framework of relationships – relationships which bless and strengthen – have such an advantage.

In these really challenging times for our children we must remember to pray – for our own families and for those whose family is under pressure. And as we pray, we can choose to be the person who brings people together in ways of blessing and peace – to sit around the table, laugh and cry with each other, and share life together.



A recent study, taking in 4,619 people,  concluded that three-quarters of people in the UK have felt ‘overwhelmed or unable to cope’ during the past year. Young people are most likely to be stressed with 83% of 18-24 year olds saying this, compared with 65% of 55 years old and over. There was also a gender divide, with 81% of women feeling this way, compared with 67% of men.

The reasons for this feeling of ‘not coping’ were described in the study as being  long term health conditions, work, money, technology and social media.

The sensation of things getting out of control is one we can all identify with – as resources become stretched and expectations become ever more functional – we are left vulnerable to being overrun both physically and mentally.

So much of life appears out of our control, so escalating the feeling of ‘not coping’. But there are things which are in our control – and these things need to be activated in order to safeguard ourselves from ‘burn-out’.

When people go through challenging times, the one ingredient which pops up almost every time in what helped the person ‘get through’ is the benefit of loyal friends. Having people around us who know us, like us and are not reticent in encouraging us – is vital to overcoming the harshest of circumstances. We need to be really careful in choosing who it is we listen to, whose advice we look for, and who can be trusted with the off-loading of anxiety and worry. This company of friends is important beyond words – and because of this it is equally important to ensure we do not allow the toxic voices to infiltrate our thinking and direction. These ‘toxic’ voices do not really listen to our situation, and they are not really for us.

But when we live in the midst of a community of friendship which encourages and shapes our thinking in a good, healthy way, then it is as though we are being carried along – especially when life is not easy. The imagery which the bible uses is that of a river. A river which flows from the altar of heaven, teeming with life and vibrancy, blessing every place and channel it flows into. This river is a pictorial description of the blessing of God’s friendship – a friendship we enjoy as we worship, praise and give thanks – and a a friendship we share with one another as we live in fellowship. We can read of this in Ezekiel chapter 47 – it is a truly wonderful, inspiring chapter of scripture.

The blessings of friendship means we have an urgent dynamic to ensure we meet with others in friendship – it might be in the pilates class we attend, it might be drinking coffee (or a glass of sherry!) after a church service, it might be walking in the forest with friends – whatever the context it is as though we take ourselves to the river and experience the life affirming energy we receive from being accepted simply for who we are and not what we do. This needs to be our dominant experience – and this enables us to give time, when required, to the ‘marshlands’ of life where the toxicity of blame, accusation and mean heartedness can be challenged and re-directed into channels of grace and love (the river  of life).

‘Not coping’ is a very real experience. It can make everything seem hopeless. Friendship – such a simple and uncomplicated thing – is the antidote we cannot afford to ignore. When those friendships stretch across the generations we really are in a good place – a river which ‘makes glad the city of our God’ (Psalm 46).